Archive for May, 2009

When I started out learning about dildos and sex toys in general, I always came upon the question of having a porous or non-porous dildo or dong! Me and my girlfriends would discuss the matter and would disagree over a few big points. The biggest point being that a porous material such as latex rubber… is more soft and smooth like your skin in both texture plus sensation. Dildos or dongs made in non-porous materials such as silicone or glass would bring a stiffer, harder sensation to both touch and feel.

A dildo made in a porous material!

So here’s the big question… which material brings on more sensational, long-lasting and intense orgasms! Because that’s the thing that interests us the most, to find out about of course! But after some more in dept study, we all came to the conclusion that what ever the sensation the material gave, was really a personal choice! Some women like harder, stiffer dildos and others a softer more gentle ride.

No, what it really came down to, was that porous materials are harder to keep clean, since bacteria and virus can live and breed in the tiny openings or pores! Plus you have to put on lubricants more frequently, since the moisture is absorbed easier by sex toys made in a porous material! Wow, just knowing that fact, became a big difference to all of us!

A dong made in a non-porous material!

Now, dildos and other sex toys that are made of non-porous materials have very smooth surfaces and absolutely no pores or tiny holes that bacteria and what not, can hide inside! And that makes them much easier to keep clean which completely takes away the worries about your sex toy being germ free! Also when it comes to lubing your dildo or dong… a little goes a long way! We where all really glad that we took the time, to do some research about porous vs. non-porous dildos! Remeber though… all your sex toys should always be cleaned or disinfected thoroughly after each use, whether porous or non-porous!

If you been thinking about beginning a pleasurable, sexual experience with a dildo, here’s some great tips to consider before you buy, if you feel a bit unsure about which dildo to get! And with money being tight right now, it’s better if you know what you’re looking for! Remember, you can’t return a dong after you’ve opened it and tried it out, just because the shaft is to big or to little…. unless it something seriously wrong with it!

All of these questions are to be considered!

• Which material do you prefer…

• Which size and thickness sounds great…

• What about the firmness…

• What design turns you on…

• Which dildo fits your budget…

Which material do you like!

There’s tons of great materials to choose from! For example… if you like a soft and gentle penetrating ride, pick a material like jelly, latex, silicone and/or rubber for that wonderful smooth, soft feel. And if you like it to be a more rough, hard feeling ride… pick a plastic, vinyl, acrylic, metal and/or a glass material!

Think about what size of penetration you already enjoy!

Start by thinking what penetration size you already like. Maybe a normal sized penis is a perfect fit or maybe a finger or two are filling enough! And if you enjoy that complete fulfillment, of something big and bulky inside your vagina, go for a larger sized dildo.

But whatever the size you find the most arousing… that’s the size dildo you want! Remember though, choosing a dildo that’s way to big for you, can turn your first dildo experience into a very uncomfortable as well as painful one! There will be plenty of opportunities to get larger sizes, when the time is right! When you check out sizes on a dildo… it’s measured by it’s diameter across and the length of it, from tip to base which is specified on each one displayed!

What about the firmness!

Firmness is important, if you want to enjoy that great G-spot stimulation. Or if you’re interested in a strap-on dildo… a stiffer dong will be easier to maneuver and stay firm without bending, while exploring all those sensitive sex spots! For these kinds of fantastic sexual encounters, you’re better off picking a dildo that’s a bit longer in size too!

What special design turns you on!

What would you like your new dildo to look like? Maybe a regular straight design with no frills, but still does the job… is something you’d like! Or maybe you want it to look semi-real, with a tip that simulates the look and feel of a penis head, but is otherwise smooth on the surface of the shaft!

Then there’s the very realistic dildo which is modeled from a real penis and has all the life-like thrills of bulging veins and even squeezable testicles attached, if you so choose! These realistic cocks can be found molded from some of the most famous Pornstars penises too… which are called “Celebrity Cocks“!

Which dildo will fit your budget the best!

Well, like most everything in life… the better it is, the  more expensive it gets! But that’s not necessarily true, when it comes to buying a dildo! There’s lots of great dildos that pleases and totally satisfies, for very low prices. Dildos made out of jelly are the cheapest and ones that are made in latex are in the middle range. Lastly, dildos made from silicone, are the most expensive ones on the market! The silicone dildo, is considered between dildo connoisseurs, to be the Ferrari of dildos!

There’s literally hundreds to choose from!

Once you get on the internet and visit a sex toys shop, you’ll soon find out there’s literally hundreds, even thousand of different styles, materials, shapes and size dildos to choose from! But with this bit of information and alternatives to consider, you might find your journey in finding the perfect dildo a bit easier!

If you’ve never checked out the wonderful feel of sexual lubricants, you’re definitely missing out on a great stimulating experience! You might already think your climaxes are satisfying enough. But once you start adding the right kind of  lubricant or oil to all your sex play… you’ll soon find out how much they will enhance your ecstasy, without absolutely no side effects or risk to your erogenous zones!

• Water-based lubricants

• Silicone-based lubricants

Use while solo playing or during intercourse!

Whether you’re masturbating or having great, passionate intercourse… a nice smelling, slippery lube will increase your sensitivity with the smooth, more friction-free surface it creates. You can either drench your favorite sex toys with your favorite lube which then becomes more safe and much easier to penetrate. Or if you like, rub the oil all over your partners and/or your own pleasure spots! I’m sure you already know, where all those right places are that turns you and your partner on the most!

When to use water-based lubricants!

Now, sexual lubricants come in two main varieties! First we have the water-based lube which has a similar feel of the natural vaginal fluids, you produce when excited or turned on! The advantages of the water-based lubes are that you can use it in most all-around sex play. You can either choose from the liquid kind which is great for shorter encounter… while the jelly kind will last throughout an whole evening of exciting romance! The water-based lube is also ideal to use with condoms!

They come in all your favorite flavors when indulging in oral sex too! Plus they are known not to cause any kind of irritation to your sensitive skin! Water-based lubes are easy to wash out from all your bedding and any other kind of upholstery! Cleaning your sex toys is a breeze too and when it comes to yourself and your partner… all you need is a wet wash cloth! But if you’re thinking of having some anal sex play, the silicone-based lube is a much better choice!

What Silicone-based lubricants are best for!

Now, if you decide to use a silicone-based lube, here you have the super-slippery consistency that will keep on lasting for as long as you need it to! It’s really great for using in the bathtub, shower or pool, since it doesn’t break down in water. Be careful though since this lube have a tendency to stick to the porcelain surfaces, so make sure to keep them wiped off and lube-free! Silicone-based lubricants are also the best ones to use when indulging in anal play. Put lots of lube all over your anal penetrating sex toys as well as the penis for a perfect friction-free, smooth gliding ride!

Remember never to use any household products like hand lotions, massage oils or cooking oil, since these products can cause infections and skin irritations! And there’s absolutley no need to either, because most lubricants are really cheap to buy from any adult internet site! So, please take my advice right now and start enjoying the many pleaurable advantages in integrating sexual lubricants, to all your romantic interludes!

If you touched upon the subject of sex toy play and your girlfriend has shown some interest, but still feels strange about bringing sex toys into the bedroom… here are some great tips that might help you along! If you can find a great adult book or magazine that specializes in this matter… and you can read together, might spare you the trouble of finding the right words to say. But if you feel confident enough, start by talking sexy to her, then start exploring her body and touch her in new and exciting places… without any sex toys around.

Be extra sensual and erotic!

Use your hands, fingers and/or tongue to make her feel special by touching her in all her favorite places and even some new, highly erogenous zones too! If she likes massages with her favorite scented oils and you know that’s a big turn-on to her, engage in that as well. Now, it’s time to move away from the sensual part of your relationship and go online to find a sex toy site, you can browse through together!

Using some humor while checking out sex toys, can be a great ice breaker and might start some mutual sex toy discussions. You’ll be amazed how many unique and funny looking sex toys there are, to laugh and joke around with! Carefully watch her when her interest peeks over one special sex toy… and then ask if she’d like to explore a little with that special one. And if she says “yes”… bingo, here’s your chance to be a gentleman and offer to buy it for her! Now, this is one way, to get your girlfriend to indulge in sex toy play. But if you already decided to spring one on her… here’s a great way, how to go about it too.

Whatever you do…don’t push it!

If you already decided to spring one on her, choose a sex toy that doesn’t look like a huge penis! And certainly don’ start out with a great, big butt plug either! Get a female sex toy, like a butterfly vibrator or small, cute looking vibrating egg. These sex toys aren’t intimidating or scary looking at all. Instead they bring out curiosity and interest! If she still feels a bit intimidated, leave the vibrating egg and/or butterfly vibrator, for her to explore on her own. Then reenter the room, when she calls for you!

Let all the sex toy fun start!

Hopefully by now, she’s ready to have some sex toy play together with you! And if you’re already familiar with these particular sex toys, you know the two of you can have lots of sex gadget fun! First you can entice her by gently strap on the butterfly vibrator and maybe penetrate her, while she’s receiving pleasurable pulsating, fluttering vibes!

And while you’re engaging in intercourse, you can have her stroke your balls and around the anus area, with the vibrating egg! Well, all the different sexual possibilities are endless, when adding sex gadgets into your sex life! By opening the doors and letting your girlfriend enter the very exciting, very satisfying world of sex toy play… will usually end up with a big hug and lots of kisses, for her very thoughtful boyfriend!

Talking about and playing with sex toys comes naturally to some, but to others it’s more of an awkward, uncomfortable subject to bring up. Lots of men and women feel kind of weird about bringing a sex toy to bed, even though they might have fantasized about it off and on. Maybe you’re a woman who has indulged in sex toys already and enjoy them a lot! And now you would like to share them with your lover… but doesn’t quite know, how he would feel about it! Here are some great helpful hints and tips that might make it a bit easier for you!

Spring a sex toy on him when he’s turned on!

The best time to introduce your guy to a sex toy, is probably when he’s really turned on! Usually most men will be interested in something new, if it’s presented to them in the right way. For example, tell him in a flirty and teasing way, about this new little vibrator you really like! Make sure though that it’s a small vibrator and not a huge dildo! Some men can feel intimidated by a dildo that’s bigger than his own penis and might think that his penis is to small or something! Guys can be really sensitive sometimes!

Start by asking if he wants to see you play with it! And after a while of watching you,  most men will really enjoy their woman indulge in a vibrator! When you feel you have his full attention, you can carefully try it out on him. First you can give him the feel of the vibrator on his nipples, than slowly move it over his chest and stomach! Lastly, move the vibrator up and down his penis and all around his scrotum too! I can almost guarantee you, you won’t have any major complaints from him! Actually, he’s probably going to tell you to keep on doing it!

Now he might be ready for even more sex toys!

Once you feel confident that you’ve broken the ice a bit, he might be interested in looking at other sex toys you really enjoy too! Maybe you like a little butt action and have one of those anal toys like the vibrating egg or bullet! Or if you have one of those cock rings, he might now be interested in trying one of those out as well! It’s always a great idea to give him the feel of being a bit in charge too! You can do that by introducing a remote control sex toy like, “the remote control vibrating panties” where he can be in charge of the height of stimulation you receive! These come in vibrating thongs for men too! Believe me, soon he’ll be acting like a kid in a candy store!

Everyone that’s old enough to engage in sexual encounters, have probably heard about sex toys, actually kids that aren’t even sexually active, probably has too! It’s almost impossible to not have seen or heard a TV and/or radio commercial about the subject. This of course bring on some natural curiosity, if and how they can fit into your sex life. But if you are that guy, who’s already engaged in male sex toys and/or female sex toys activities by yourself and now, would like to introduce one or more of them to your lover… but doesn’t quite know how to go about it. Here’s some great tips you might find helpful!

Start with open communication about the subject!

It’s always a much smarter idea to start a small conversation about the subject of sex toys and then try to find out how your lover feels about them. This is obviously a matter you want to end up in a successful manner! So it’s of the utmost importance you don’t scare or shock you’re lover in anyway. Pulling out a huge, vibrating dildo from your night stand, could be quite intimidating as well as scary, to someone who hasn’t shared sex toys with you before!

If you find out that your lover seems really into the experience of sharing sex toys with you… makes of course everything a bit easier! But if your lover seem a bit timid and shy, it’s best to be very considerate of her feelings and not to apply any kind of pressure. In fact, sharing in the anxieties with your lover, can actually bring on a very relaxed and soothing atmosphere!

Why some people are more hesitant than others!

To you, sex toys might sound really fun and exciting and “why” wouldn’t everyone love them, just as much as you do. Probably because you came from a very open and sexually orientated family! But to some there are several reason “why”. For example… fear plus lack of knowledge and education might be one! And even if the person is a little curious and has done some fantasizing about sex toys… it could still be totally overwhelming, to actually go through with it!

Be supportive and patient!

Another more serious part of their fear, guilt or shame might be in rooted by family, religion or even social pressures! The best key to successfully introduce one or more sex toys into your reputoire in being a great lover is…. “Be SUPPORTIVE and PATIENT”! Soon your partner will through you and more knowledge about sex toys, have all her fears subside and disappear! And when they finally do, all kinds of doors will suddenly open to lots of future fun and exciting explorations… of the wonderfully thrilling and satisfying world of sex toy play!